Being an intergenerational music ministry means that we value and find places of services for ALL ages. While this sounds easy to write, it can more challenging than one might think. Folks from each generation are at different stages of life, which affect their ability to participate. The question that runs through my head for all on my team is: how can I make things easier for folks at different stages of life to participate and make a valuable contribution to the kingdom of God? This may mean helping the young mother who has to miss so much for her kids understand she is wanted and valued while she is away. This also means not making the older adult feel guilty because they have to miss so much for doctor’s appointments or illness. Someone once told me, people always make time for the things they love and are committed to. I’ve found making our people feel valued and appreciated means they’ll be here as OFTEN as humanly possible. We leaders must be open and embrace the strengths each generation brings to the table while learning to manage the weaknesses of each as well. For the next few posts, I want to highlight some perspectives from folks in our ministry from different generations.
In this post I want to share of the JOY it is to have music team members from the Builder Generation. Builders, as defined by Pete Menconi in The Intergenerational Church: Understanding Congregations from WWII to http://www.com, were born from 1925-1943. Our youngest Builders today are 75 years old. If what I found in Georgia is true, no more than about 10-15% of any music ministry is made of folks from this age group. Most have simply “retired” out of being in music ministry or, sadly, have been made to feel inferior and simply dropped out when they simply didn’t feel valued anymore. Issues folks from this generation face in music ministry include: sickness, loss of mobility (standing, balance, getting in and out of loft), breath support—vocal issues, etc. It’s our responsibility to help minimize and alleviate these issues as much as possible. Otherwise, they will simply drop out.
In our church we have several folks from the Builder Generation in our choir and orchestra. Today I want to share about one particular lady in our choir who God has used to encourage me countless times. It is a double blessing that she gets to sit next to her daughter in the choir…serving alongside. Here’s a bit of her story from her daughter’s perspective:
Mother grew up in a musical family so music is very much a part of her DNA. As a child, she was attending “singing schools” led by her Dad. He would lead and her mother would play the piano. Part of the requirement of each singing school was that each participant got to lead the group as a music director. Mother began doing that before she was a teenager.
Music has been one of the dominant themes/patterns of her life. She majored in music in college and has had piano students, vocal students through the years. She has also served as pianist, organist and minister of music in many of the churches and military chapels. Her love and passion for music makes her heart sing. Again, music is in her DNA and God has used that in her life.
She has and continues to dedicate herself to serving God. As she is aging, there are many activities she can longer participate in and/or lead. The opportunity to sing in a choir again has allowed her to reconnect to her joy of music and her sense of value. It is filling a void that existed since music is so much a part of her life. Some comments she has made:
- I am so thankful to be singing in a choir again.
- I didn’t think I would ever get to do this again.
- (to me) You don’t know how much this means to me that you make this possible.
- I know all these songs! (She does know many due to her vast knowledge of music however not 100%!)
- I prayed and prayed that God would allow me to sing in a choir again.
- At least there still something I can do.
- I bet I am the oldest one in the choir! (to which I have told her she is not!)
Will, I think I have shared with you that I was not sure how well she would do and if she could manage to keep up as she ages. When she is in her seat with her folder, she is in her “sweet spot!” Although she has difficultly following some of the scores (that’s where I come in as her guide!), she is spot on with diction and notes. Her voice is not strong but it is on key. Being part of the choir reinforces her call to ministry and allows her to continue to serve God. Not all choirs would welcome her (and others of her age) that you so willingly embrace. You find value where they are in their lives and in their musical experience.
For me, it’s an honor to be a small part of how God is answering Mother’s prayers and seeing her engaged in what is so much a part of the very fabric of her life. It has, for now, altered some of the ways I am able to engage and interact with others in the choir as I am her guide and support. I am good with that. I can only imagine there were many times when I was growing up that she was in the same place, sacrificing some of herself for me and my brothers for that moment in our times of growing up. The fact that you embrace people where they are and find a way for them to fit is a leadership characteristic I value and appreciate about you. It’s one of the many characteristics that sets you apart from your peers.
I wept as I read this.
I have to tell you, not a week goes by that my Builder generation member doesn’t grab me lovingly by the arm and thanks me for letting her sing in the choir. She keeps me in check, friends. She reminds me we’re in this together till the end; we are spurring one another on, submitting our own needs to those who need it most for the sake of the gospel and the kingdom of God.